It’s no secret that I’m unsure of my relationship. I really don’t know if this is the guy that I am willing to spend the rest of my life with. I don’t know if there is ANY guy that I would feel that way about. I’m sure it causes me to put undue pressure on the relationship, to be overly critical and overall “less happy”.
Over the last week, two of our “couple friends” have disclosed their relationship issues to us and both were doubting if they will make it. One of these couples is already engaged. The other couple moved in together after only a few months of dating — they are no longer living together or dating.
At one point in time, these people were happy. They thought the decisions they were making were the right ones and that their relationships were solid. They obviously don’t think so now. They were obviously wrong.
My question is this: “How do you ever know?”
Followed by: “And when do you realize you were wrong?”
Wow, you are asking tough questions. Now I am speaking as a guy who has gone through several failed relationships. I was very nervous and held much back as I entered the one I currently am in. I was afraid to invest to much of myself or to make myself to vulnerable and expose myself to possible future hurt. I worked at and remained faithful to the relationship, but I suppose in my heart I had an almost I don’t care attitude. If it works, it works, and if not oh well. I was able to put no pressure on myself, on her, or on the relationship. With no pressure, the relationship grew, for which I am now very happy.
Try to relax let things just develop, with no expectations or pressure and you will know if it is right.
i agree with hudds53…live every day as it comes and don’t fuss on things that aren’t really there (because when we tend to over-analyze, we miss out on the important stuff, stuff that’s right in front of us).
I think that is a question many of us ask at some point in time, be it friendships or more intimate relationships. I don’t think I have an answer.
I mean how can we trust our feelings in an ever-changing world where people grow at different rates and what we want changes with us.